I suppose I too may have seemed more short with you than I intended. We have not the advantage of face-to-face communication with its nuance or benefit of expression which may bring with it better understanding.
I do not mean to indicate that you have engaged in anything like the egregious mistakes of your first year. And it is true that you may perceive your associates provide you with a form of support you feel is lacking elsewhere. However, that does not change the fact that your reputation continues to suffer the longer you make yourself their champion. Sometimes I do believe that tying yourself to a Gryffindor so conspicuously has caused a bad influence; you are becoming more stubborn and strong-headed rather than learning better discretion and interpersonal political acumen. My point was that Draco withdrew his support so that you would feel the lack of it, of course. And from his perspective, it was a reasonable tactic, though perhaps he did not anticipate your resourcefulness - or your mulishness - in prioritising your new acquaintances over your oldest ones.
You ask what you have done wrong other than form undesirable attachments. Well, the harsh reality is that those ... friendships ... have tinged your interactions with others and particularly the public face you have presented, such as condemning those who pulled a bit of a prank against Weasley, but failing to condemn him just as publicly when your Weasley mocked Mr Marvolo's reaction to the Dementors. Given what you've told me of your own response to the Azkaban guards, I wonder that you could consider his actions at all defensible. You have obviously discovered that you can use your relative status to give weight to your statements, but consider what statements you choose to make and the messages you send when you choose not to speak as well as when you decide to say anything at all. This is one example, in recent enough memory that it comes to mind immediately.
Clearly I cannot comb through your past entries to discover more such instances but if you wish to heal the rift that has grown between you and Draco, then you must accept that it is not all one-sided.
In no way do I wish to cause you more distress, certainly not to bring about a relapse or exacerbation of your illness. I suppose the only advice I can offer in terms of your condition is that if you have 'worked yourself into knots' with worry over your actions, then it must be the case that you are pondering enterprises which you fear I might not approve. Yes? In which case the answer is comparatively simple, is it not? You have only to take the course that would meet with my favour. It is also worth remembering that such decisions, if taken, would undoubtedly restore Draco's faith in you as well.
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Date: 2010-09-21 08:27 pm (UTC)I do not mean to indicate that you have engaged in anything like the egregious mistakes of your first year. And it is true that you may perceive your associates provide you with a form of support you feel is lacking elsewhere. However, that does not change the fact that your reputation continues to suffer the longer you make yourself their champion. Sometimes I do believe that tying yourself to a Gryffindor so conspicuously has caused a bad influence; you are becoming more stubborn and strong-headed rather than learning better discretion and interpersonal political acumen. My point was that Draco withdrew his support so that you would feel the lack of it, of course. And from his perspective, it was a reasonable tactic, though perhaps he did not anticipate your resourcefulness - or your mulishness - in prioritising your new acquaintances over your oldest ones.
You ask what you have done wrong other than form undesirable attachments. Well, the harsh reality is that those ... friendships ... have tinged your interactions with others and particularly the public face you have presented, such as condemning those who pulled a bit of a prank against Weasley, but failing to condemn him just as publicly when your Weasley mocked Mr Marvolo's reaction to the Dementors. Given what you've told me of your own response to the Azkaban guards, I wonder that you could consider his actions at all defensible. You have obviously discovered that you can use your relative status to give weight to your statements, but consider what statements you choose to make and the messages you send when you choose not to speak as well as when you decide to say anything at all. This is one example, in recent enough memory that it comes to mind immediately.
Clearly I cannot comb through your past entries to discover more such instances but if you wish to heal the rift that has grown between you and Draco, then you must accept that it is not all one-sided.
In no way do I wish to cause you more distress, certainly not to bring about a relapse or exacerbation of your illness. I suppose the only advice I can offer in terms of your condition is that if you have 'worked yourself into knots' with worry over your actions, then it must be the case that you are pondering enterprises which you fear I might not approve. Yes? In which case the answer is comparatively simple, is it not? You have only to take the course that would meet with my favour. It is also worth remembering that such decisions, if taken, would undoubtedly restore Draco's faith in you as well.